May 31, 2015

Interview with Human Behaviour Specialist and Life Coach Adrian Cahill on coaching in China and cross-cultural understanding (Part Three)

In Part Three, Adrian reveals his discovery on intercultural relationships and what's his strategy to cope with the "copycats" competitors.

Jing Yan: What’s your discovery about intercultural relationships?

Adrian Cahill: I have been very interested in cross-cultural relationships. My wife comes from Yun’nan province, and I am from Australia. My focus has been always on personal fulfillment, which I get from helping others. I have been very secure all my life, and grown up in a very secure environment. Not that I come from any rich or poor background, but my family just didn’t worry about work or money. What I see in a lot of China, is a lot of people are very worried about money, and security, and certainty. If you worry about those things, how can you focus on fulfillment about helping others? So it creates an environment where many people are driven by fear, of losing them, and motivation of gaining security. And you have some people that are fortunate to be from more developed countries or richer background, they always have that, so they focus more on self-fulfillment. In Australia, many people do coaching, because, the country is so safe that most families never have to worry about security as much as people who do here. And they would raise drastically different children.

So your mission here is trying to help them get out of their usual ways of thinking?

What we want to do here, is what we call it, a “global awakening”. It’s a very popular movement, involving millions of people around the world that are in this field. Global awakening is people start to wake up to the fact that they can control their life, it’s helping about people in the world, to step up a level of psychological development or evolution, help them to start to realize that they are responsible for their world, rather than blaming their family or country or offspring, taking responsibilities for themselves. I like to help inspire people to start realize that they can change and they can affect their future. We are organizing a group called “Motivating people” in Shanghai, and I have seen many similar group competing with us, but I would like to support any competitors who will help to do the same thing.

That’s a healthy mindset. While you are doing your business in China, do you really want to support your competitors? Is it your kind of strategy for success here?

I have lots of people here copying what I do already. I am more than happy to help them. People can copy what you have done, but they can’t copy what you do next. You just keep doing, keep making new things. Last week, a boy wrote me on Linkedin, he said he really wants to meet me. I clicked on his profile, he copied half of my profile. And then I got another email, saying that he’s sorry that he copied my profile, I really want to learn from you and do what you do. Alright, fantastic, you copied my profile, but you can’t copy all the references, all the endorsements, all the backing I have from other people. It’s not very effective, but he copied and I took that as a compliment. I think he is coming to my courses, I may even help him get the first client.

“People can copy what you have done, but they can’t copy what you do next. You just keep doing, keep making new things.”

End of the interview.